Two most important wedding etiquette

The Two Most Important Wedding Etiquettes

Pakiusap lang po.

Huwag sana sasama ang loob kapag hindi kayo invited sa kasal ng kaibigan o kamag-anak ninyo, no matter how close you are.

Unang-una, hindi n’yo naman ‘yun gastos, at hindi rin naman kayo nagbayad.

Pangalawa, hindi nyo alam ang pinagdaanan ng mag-asawa – lahat ng sakripisyo nila sa pagtitipid at pagkalap ng pera para sa kasal. Huwag na kayong dumagdag, please lang.

Pangatlo, the wedding is not about you. Nor is it about your feelings. It’s about the couple!

Kwento ko lang ha.

May classmate kami, mula high school hanggang college. Close talaga kami. Sa sobrang gipit nya nung time na mag-aasawa na siya, hindi nya kami mainvite sa reception. Pumunta pa rin kami sa misa ng wedding nya, at nag mcdo na lang para i-celebrate ang pinakamasayang araw ng kaibigan namin. Masaya kami para sa kanya, walang samaan ng loob, at lalong hindi namin pinilit na pumunta ng reception. It’s called maturity.

Isa pang etiquette na dapat nating ginagawa: huwag tayong pakialamero sa kasal ng kaibigan o kamag-anak natin.

May isa naman akong kaibigan – dinala ako sa isang sulok sa reception ng wedding nila after mag-alisan ng mga guests. Umiiyak siya dahil sa sama ng loob. Sama ng loob sa mga kamag-anak na epal. They guilt-tripped him into inviting themselves kahit sobrang nipis na ng budget nila, at nakakuha pa ng kapal ng mukha para mag-invite ng iba.

And it didn’t stop there. Nakialam sila sa halos lahat ng aspeto ng kasal: simbahan, reception, kung sino dapat ang flower girl at ring bearer (“magtatampo si aling ganito kapag hindi mo ginawang flower girl yung anak nyang si kwan!”) Umiyak sya sa akin dahil sa stress na dulot ng mga epal na kamag-anak. At sila pa daw ang malakas shumaron sa tirang pagkain sa reception! (Dagdag ko lang, marami rin sa kanila, pagtapos ng wedding nyo, pagchichismisan lang din kayo. Pupulaan ang mga suot nyo, yung pagkain, yung simbahan na kesyo malayo, mainit yung reception, kesyo di kayo magtatagal kasi lalakero si groom, etc)

Ang problema sa ating mga Pinoy, kung ikaw ang nasa posisyon na ikakasal ka at shinare mo itong post na to, or sinabi mo ito sa mga kaibigan at kamag-anak mo, ikaw pa ang lalabas na masama. Nahihiya ka sa kanila pero sila, napakawalang-hiya! Iga-gaslight ka nila at sasabihan ka na walang utang na loob, o walang kwentang kaibigan. “Ganyan ka pala pinalaki ng magulang mo!”

I don’t care about these comments. And neither should all of you about to get married. Focus on yourselves, on God, and on the sanctity of marriage and of your wedding day. Kung toxic sila pagtapos mong sabihan na “sorry, hindi ko po kayo maiimbita,” kung marami silang paandar at maraming kuda, be thankful. At least walang toxic sa kasal ninyo.

You will have peace of mind on what is supposed to be the happiest day of your life.

Ccto anthony janes perez

Choose your battles

Homesickness

Kakauwi ko lang.

Nagbihs lang ako, naglinis ng katawan, sabay humiga na sa kama. Hindi ko muna pinatay ang ilaw dahil hindi rin naman ako agad dadalawin ng antok.

Tumitig lang ako sa kisame.

Siguro mga ilang minuto rin iyon. Tapos bigla ko na lang naramdaman ang pag-agos ng kabubukal lang na mga luha mula sa aking mga mata. Unti-unti kong naramdaman ang pagbigat ng dibdib, at patuloy sa pag agos ang aking luha. Para bang hindi s’ya matatapos.

Tapos bigla akong napaisip. Kasi bakit?

Bakit biglang naging ganito ‘yong pakiramdam ko?

Mabigat. Tapos may kasamang lungkot na hindi ko malaman kung sa nanggagaling.

Ilang minuto pa muli ang lumipas, gano’n pa rin.

Noong napagtanto ko kung bakit, agad kong ibinaliktad ang basang unan, kumuha pa ng isa upang yakapin nang mahigpit at binalot ang sarili sa kumot kahit hindi naman malamig.

𝐷𝑎𝑚𝑎 𝑘𝑜 𝑛𝑎 𝑎𝑛𝑔 𝑝𝑎𝑔𝑜𝑑.

At ito ‘yong pagod na alam kong hindi agad mawawala kasi may kasama na s’yang lungkot.

—Siyelo
Likhang sining | sayu.go (ig)

Spilled coffee

I LOVE THIS ANALOGY:

You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you that shakes your arm, making you spill your coffee everywhere.

Why did you spill the coffee?

“Because someone bumped into me!!!”

Wrong answer.

You spilled the coffee because there was coffee in your cup.

Had there been tea in the cup, you would have spilled tea.

Whatever is inside the cup is what will spill out.

Therefore, when life comes along and shakes you (which WILL happen), whatever is inside you will come out. It’s easy to fake it, until you get rattled.

So we have to ask ourselves… “what’s in my cup?”

When life gets tough, what spills over?

Joy, gratitude, peace and humility?

Anger, bitterness, victim mentality and quitting-tendencies?

Life provides the cup, YOU choose how to fill it.

Today let’s work towards filling our cups with gratitude, forgiveness, joy, words of affirmation, resilience, positivity; and kindness, gentleness and love for others.

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Always choose to be kind

I love this story even if I read it over and over again

SON: “Daddy, may I ask you a question?”
DAD: “Yeah sure, what is it?”
SON: “Daddy, how much do you make an hour?”
DAD: “That’s none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?”
SON: “I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?”
DAD: “If you must know, I make $100 an hour.”
SON: “Oh! (With his head down).
SON: “Daddy, may I please borrow $50?”
The Father was furious.
DAD: “If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I work hard everyday for such childish behavior.”
The Little Boy quietly went to his room and shut the door. The Man sat down and started to get even angrier about the Little Boy’s questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?
After about an hour or so, the Man had calmed down, and started to think: ‘Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $50 and he really didn’t ask for money very often.’
The Man went to the door of the Little Boy’s room and opened the door.
DAD: “Are you asleep, Son?”
SON: “No Daddy, I’m awake”.
DAD: “I’ve been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier. It’s been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here’s the $50 you asked for.”
The Little Boy sat straight up, smiling.
SON: “Oh, thank you Daddy!”
Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills. The Man saw that the Boy already had money, started to get angry again. The Little Boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his Father.
DAD: “Why do you want more money if you already have some?”
SON: “Because I didn’t have enough, but now I do. Daddy, I have $100 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.”
The Father was crushed. He put his arms around his Little Son, and he begged for his forgiveness. It’s just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts.
Do remember to share that $100 worth of your time with someone you love? If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for would replace us in a matter of days. But the family and friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives. And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than to our family.
Some things are more important. ❤️👇

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Is it worth it?

“Is it worth it?”

I wonder if being in a relationship with someone is better and happier than being single and free?

I wonder if being in a relationship or being with someone is the basis of a happy, satisfied and contented life? The reason why people are always pressuring and asking you, “why are you single” and “when are you getting married?”

I wonder if being in a relationship and staying in a relationship with someone who doesn’t respect, who doesn’t love you back, who doesn’t appreciate you, who doesn’t value you, who doesn’t know how to take care of you, you makes you anxious and fearful, who makes you feel ugly and not enough, and who doesn’t know how to be loyal and be contented is worth keeping? Is it worth the pain and the heartbreak? Is it worth every drop of your tear? Is it worth staying awake at night? Is it worth worrying? Is it worth breaking your heart in pieces?

Is it worth it?

I believe we all want to be loved and to love. We love the feeling of receiving love and care from someone. We wanna feel valued and be assured every now and then. But, we sometimes rely and depend on the wrong person. We shouldn’t rely and depend on people, because assurance, love, identity, security and peace should only come from the unlimited giver, Jesus Christ.

If we depend and rely on people for happiness, assurance, love, identity, security, value, tendency is we’ll get hurt, offended, and will break our heart. Because we are just human–limited and sinful. That’s why we should only depend on Jesus–unlimited, gracious, loving, merciful, faithful and generous.

Is it worth loving Jesus Christ? Yes. It is worth your all, because He gave His all for you, including His own life, so you’ll live and be saved from your sins.

-Beauty in the Broken

“10 realizations that you have to embrace.”

1. As you get older, you choose the people that you accept in your life. You do not want to waste your energy trying to connect with someone, and it will not prosper into a relationship that is worth keeping.

2. You can’t stop people from saying things about you. It is not your responsibility to change their minds. You only have to keep on doing what you do best. For as long as you are not hurting anyone, then there is no need to explain yourself.

3. You don’t need so many friends in your life. You only need a few but are genuine with you. You cut off people in your life who do not respect you.

4. You are a work in progress, so there is no need for you to be hard on yourself. You have to continue learning and embrace that you will never please everyone.

5. Kindness goes a long way. If you have nothing good to say, it is better to keep your opinions to yourself. Allow people to grow and learn from their past mistakes.

6. Those people who know you better will stay with you no matter what. These are people that you have to keep because they have the purest intentions for you.

7. Maturity is to prioritize your needs over anything. For as long it can serve its purpose, you don’t feel the need to buy a new one.

8. Embrace the fact that we outgrew people. Some of them do not stay because they have other priorities.
You don’t stop them, you let them go.

9. You choose your battles because not everything is worth your time and energy. You would want to protect your peace of mind than engage in drama.

10. You choose your happiness more than anything. You don’t let people define your success. You make the most of every day because life is fleeting. You chase your dreams, not people anymore.

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Repost about traveling

Beware as the sky’s open for travel .
If you travel by ai

Beware of over friendly chatty seat neighbours.
The older lady comes and sits next to me inside the plane. She asked me to help her put her bag in the overhead luggage compartment. But a gentleman sitting across quickly came through. (I am not very tall and the overhead luggage compartment is something I try to avoid at all costs.
Immediately she sits down she strikes up a conversation. She was very pleasant and well spoken. So we chatted all through the flight to Dubai.
Suddenly, when the pilot announced that we were now proceeding to begin our descent into DXB, my good friend ‘developed’ stomach pains. Me with my good heart, I pressed the stewards button, and the stewardess came to find out what the problem was. I told her my seat mate was not feeling well.
And this lady, she suddenly began to address me as ‘my daughter’. The stewardess told me that there was nothing they could do except give her some painkillers and wait until we landed. The pilot announced that we had a medical emergency on board and advised us all to stay calm. My new friend was crying and sweating like crazy. And she refused to let go of my hand… everyone assumed we knew each other.
So we landed at DXB and the same gentleman who helped put up her luggage in the overhead compartment removed her luggage. But as he removed the luggage, he advised me to distance myself from this lady and make it clear to the cabin crew that we were NOT travelling together. He was a godsend!
So indeed, the cabin crew came and asked me if we were related, I categorically told them we had met on the plane. I didn’t know her at all. So we began to deplane and as I said goodbye she kept begging me to carry her handbag. I was so torn… but the gentleman looked me in the eye and emphatically shook his head. He passed me a note telling me to let the cabin crew handle her.
So I exit the aircraft and leave my ‘new friend’ to wait for the wheelchair and be handled by the cabin crew feeling very guilty.
As we waited for our luggage to come through, I hear this commotion. My ‘new friend’ was running, trying to escape the cabin crew, having gotten out of the wheelchair! She left the stewardess with her handbag and just ran towards the exit with the rest of her hand luggage! Luckily the airport police were faster than her. They got hold of her and brought her back in handcuffs.
This lady starts calling out to me.. my daughter… my daughter!.. how could you do this to me….. that’s when I caught on. She was carrying drugs and she was trying to implicate me!
Luckily for me, the gentleman who had helped her with her luggage came forward and told the airport police that me and her had just met on the plane. The police took my passport and asked her to reveal my full names if it was true we were travelling together. By God’s grace, I had not even told her my first name! I was still asked to follow the police to a little room where I was questioned extensively. Where did I meet her?… where did I board… where did she board. Etc… And my luggage was extensively searched and dusted for fingerprints.
They dusted all her luggage and my fingerprints were not found anywhere on her luggage or on her handbag!
I was let go with advice never ever to touch anyone’s luggage either in flight or at the airport. So from that day, I don’t care how much luggage you have, you will deal with it yourself. I will not even offer you a trolley to put your luggage on! Your luggage… your problem…. is my policy. And if you can’t reach the overhead compartment, and I am the nearest person, please call the cabin crew because all I will do is give you a blank stare and then look away!
A lesson to glean therein for intending air travelers.

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⛔DO NOT GO ABROAD⛔

1️⃣. Don’t go abroad if you are not confident.

2️⃣. Don’t go abroad if you can’t endure and sacrifice.

3️⃣. Don’t go abroad if you can’t persevere.

4️⃣. Don’t go abroad if you are not strong.

5️⃣. Don’t go abroad if you are just complaining.

6️⃣. Don’t go abroad if you can’t eat your pride.

7️⃣. Don’t go abroad if you can’t bear the sadness.

8️⃣. Do not go abroad if you are weak.

9️⃣. Don’t go abroad if you don’t know how to approach.

🔟. Don’t go abroad if you are not sure why you are going abroad.

🎯Life abroad is never for the faint heart. You’ll be out of your comfort zone – out of the familiar, safe place you’re used to.

💣Here, the life of your sorrow will eat you up; you will cry suddenly for no apparent reason.
You’ll get frustrated a lot of times.

🧭You can’t help but compare your life then in the Philippines with your life now here abroad. You’ll even start giving up on yourself. And you’ll start questioning if you’ve really made the right decision.

🎭You will adjust-to a new life, a new environment, a new person, and a new job.
⚖️If you were in the Philippines, you were the boss and you were already at the top, here you will start again at the bottom.

💵If you apply pride, nothing will happen in your life. Not everyone is lucky enough to find a good job with a big salary.

🎓The others, have graduated and been able to work in a good company in the Philippines but when they come here they will be able to enter any job – waiter, driver, receptionist, kitchen assistant, saleslady and others.

🪖Here, it doesn’t matter what your job is; the important thing is that you support your family with every shipment you make. ♥ ️
#experienced
#isurvived

CTTO: Maggie M. Austria

Without Rain Nothing Grows. Learn To Embrace The Storms In Your Life.

This is one of the most common things we all face at some point in our lives. “Without rain nothing grows, so learn to embrace the storms in your life.” What does this quote mean to you?

Without Rain Nothing Grows. Learn To Embrace The Storms In Your Life.