Is it worth it?

“Is it worth it?”

I wonder if being in a relationship with someone is better and happier than being single and free?

I wonder if being in a relationship or being with someone is the basis of a happy, satisfied and contented life? The reason why people are always pressuring and asking you, “why are you single” and “when are you getting married?”

I wonder if being in a relationship and staying in a relationship with someone who doesn’t respect, who doesn’t love you back, who doesn’t appreciate you, who doesn’t value you, who doesn’t know how to take care of you, you makes you anxious and fearful, who makes you feel ugly and not enough, and who doesn’t know how to be loyal and be contented is worth keeping? Is it worth the pain and the heartbreak? Is it worth every drop of your tear? Is it worth staying awake at night? Is it worth worrying? Is it worth breaking your heart in pieces?

Is it worth it?

I believe we all want to be loved and to love. We love the feeling of receiving love and care from someone. We wanna feel valued and be assured every now and then. But, we sometimes rely and depend on the wrong person. We shouldn’t rely and depend on people, because assurance, love, identity, security and peace should only come from the unlimited giver, Jesus Christ.

If we depend and rely on people for happiness, assurance, love, identity, security, value, tendency is we’ll get hurt, offended, and will break our heart. Because we are just human–limited and sinful. That’s why we should only depend on Jesus–unlimited, gracious, loving, merciful, faithful and generous.

Is it worth loving Jesus Christ? Yes. It is worth your all, because He gave His all for you, including His own life, so you’ll live and be saved from your sins.

-Beauty in the Broken

Panganay

Being a “panganay” is so hard.

We always have the biggest and heaviest role in the family. We are expected to be the “breadwinner”. We should be the “perfect” example to our younger siblings. We need to be “cautious” of our words and actions. We should be “polite” all the time. As if it’s a sin for us to be seen as a weak person. We should never let our emotions out. We should not disappoint anyone.

But, not all the times we have the strength to go every single day. We do have our own share of struggles. We cry at night in our own room unable to share to anyone our feelings. We reprimanded our own selves when things get out of hand (especially when it comes to our siblings and parents). We always keep in our selves the things that hurt and pain us. We do not speak of our struggle.

Why am I saying these things? Because I want to be the voice of those “panganay” who are struggling right now for their family; to those people who are working hard day and night.

A simple “hello, kumusta?” Or “okay ka lang?” can make our day. Because those simple words will remind us that we have a reason to keep going and they are always in our back to support us. It reminds us that we are not alone in our fight.

We always say this to our selves “Kapag may kailangan ako, kanino ako pwedeng tumakbo?” And it hurts that nothing in our mind can we found comfort while struggling. A simple “thank you” can lift up a part of the burden we are carrying. So, please let your “panganay” be reminded that you are there for a support. They needed it badly.

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Marriage

I’m not a basher but a preacher. This is the effect of unhappy and broken marriages. The next generation will not believe in it anymore specially our children. This man grew up with “separations” all around him specially his own parents. Due to the disappointments he saw and experienced, to him marriage is nothing but a piece of paper. Something completely unneccesary. One of the reasons he mentioned is for easy escape in case you don’t like each other anymore in the future. If someone has a marriage exit plan, his/her marriage will surely fail. Even considering his background, he is still wrong of course. Marriage is not just a piece of paper. It is invented and designed by God. It is a vow you make to the Lord, to your spouse, to the church, and to your family and friends that you will love each other no matter what. It is a vow! Do we get that? Your birth certificate is not only a paper. It is a story and a history of how you came into being and who you are as a person. A lasting marriage and a marriage certificate is not only a paper. It is a proof that you understand true love. True love is not displayed when you still like each other. True love is displayed when you don’t like each other anymore but you still choose to stay and do life together happily because you made a “vow” on your wedding day. You cannot make a vow without a marriage! The true measure of a man is not how many women he slept with but how many vows he kept. Marriage is way more than the marriage certificate or benefits. But entering the marriage covenant is a public demonstration of your private intentions. If you truly love the person, why will you not commit your entire life to him/her? If you truly love your children, why will you not want to give them a more secure and stable home by getting married? If you truly love your family, why will you not give them the legal protection that comes from marriage? If you are truly a follower of God, why dis-agree on His plan and design for marriage?
Satan is slowly winning on his plan to destroy the community by destroying the family. He is slowly turning our minds away from the biblical foundations to our own opinions. As Christians, we don’t just stand and watch. We fight! We fight by showing to the world the beauty, joy, stability, and grace of marriage. We fight by raising up children who will believe in marriage in the same way that we do. We fight by welcoming healthy and helpful discussions about marriage. We fight by spreading the truth. We fight on our knees. I am praying and hoping that one day I will see this man on a suit and a tie waiting for his bride on his wedding day. I hope he will show he is a real man by changing his mind about marriage for the sake of the woman and child that he claims he truly love. That’s my prayer for all men. To all who decided to get married, I am proud of you!

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What is hollow gold?

What Is Hollow Gold?

Hollow gold is essentially the opposite of solid gold. Where solid gold is composed of gold in its entirety, even its center, hollow gold has empty space inside. This makes it much more lightweight and inexpensive compared to solid gold.

Hollow gold is not the same as a gold-plated material, which uses a layer of gold on the outside but is filled with another type of metal on the inside. This gives it the appearance of solid gold while also mimicking the same weight and feel.
Hollow Gold vs. Solid Gold
If you’re not sure which type of metal to go with when picking out your next piece of jewelry, here are some important differences and similarities to know.

Durability

One of the biggest differences between each of these different types of gold is their durability. Hollow gold pieces are naturally much more prone to wear and tear because they are entirely hollow, as opposed to solid gold pieces, which have better structural integrity and are more resistant to damage.
Not to mention, hollow gold is usually more noticeable when it wears and tears. This is because scratches look more like dents or can even create holes or gaps in the surface of the piece. If a solid gold necklace gets a scratch, it usually isn’t very noticeable unless you’re looking at the piece from extremely close-up since there is gold all along the inside, too.

Cost

Another significant difference between these two is the cost. Solid gold contains a lot more actual gold compared to hollow gold, so you can expect to pay a much higher price tag. Hollow gold is considered a budget-friendly jewelry option.
There are factors that can influence the price of either type, though. The quality of the gold is a major contributor. A 24k hollow gold piece will likely run up a higher price tag than a 14k solid gold piece purely because of the metal quality. Additionally, diamonds, stones, and other add-ons will naturally hike up the price tag despite the type of metal that it uses.

Purpose

Hollow gold and solid gold can amplify an outfit, but there are specific reasons why you would wear one over the other. Solid gold is meant for formal wear. You’d wear solid gold chains to a wedding, a fine dinner, an awards show, or another event where some celebrities might be rubbing elbows with you.
Hollow gold is meant for casual attire where you’re just trying to turn a boring outfit into something a little bit more exciting. It’s meant for days when you’re not necessarily trying to impress anybody, but you still want to try to look your best before stepping out of the door.

Appearance

Although hollow gold might appear a bit tarnished more quickly than solid gold, the bottom line is that both of these pieces look nearly identical. A hollow gold necklace would not look too much different from a solid gold necklace because the visual components of the piece are still made with gold.
The only time when you can really tell the difference is if you’re feeling the pieces. Hollow gold is markedly lighter and less dense than solid gold, so if someone gets close to you and wants to check out your piece, they’ll likely be able to tell which one you’re wearing.
Both hollow gold and solid gold can be made to look like other types of gold, too, like white gold or rose gold. While these variations are technically not considered solid gold to begin with because they are made with other alloys to give them this color, you can get both of these types of jewelry in these hues.

How To Take Care of Your Gold Jewelry

You should take care of hollow gold jewelry in the same way as solid gold, though you’ll probably need to take a little bit of extra care.

Regular Cleaning

To keep your gold jewelry shining and looking pristine, you’ll want to clean it every time it looks like it’s getting visibly dirty.
First, combine a solution of 10 parts warm water with about two parts mild dish soap. Then, soak your piece in the solution for about one to three hours to let all of the residue slide off. After that, take them out and scrub the piece gently with a soft cloth or your fingers.
Carefully run the piece under clean water and blot it dry with a cloth (like a microfiber one). Drying your piece thoroughly is vital to reduce the risk of getting any oxidized rust on your jewelry.
Avoid abrasive cleaners like bleach or rough cloths like paper towels.

Proper Storage

Storing your jewelry is one of the greatest lines of defense when it comes to making sure it lasts you a long time. One of the safest places to keep a piece of jewelry is a clean, fabric-lined jewelry box that protects it from the elements and keeps it dry.
This also prevents your pieces from rubbing up against each other. Since gold is relatively low on the hardness scale, it can be nicked and dented pretty easily if it touches other pieces, like harder metals or hard stones like diamonds. If you don’t have a jewelry box, there is no harm in keeping your pieces separated in the original packaging that they came in.

Avoid Chlorine and Water

Chlorine is gold’s worst enemy, and with repeated exposure, your gold’s structural integrity will lower. Or chlorine could end up breaking your piece entirely. This is especially the case for hollow gold, which is a lot less durable to begin with.
Take off your jewelry before you hop into the pool or chill at the spa. The same goes for sweating during a workout or going to the sauna. Remove your piece so that moisture does not lead to rust formation on the outside of the piece.

In Conclusion

Hollow gold looks just like solid gold, except there is empty space on the inside rather than solid gold throughout. This means that it’s a lot less expensive but is also less durable and less lightweight in comparison.

Gold is gold, the more solid it is the more expensive.

It’s all your choice if what would you choose to buy.

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Bumagsak ka hindi ka ibinagsak

BUMAGSAK KA hindi ka IBINAGSAK

hindi ka ibinagsak, bumagsak ka dahil nung tinanong ni guro kung sino ang nalilito, at hirap sa topic ay hindi ka kumibo…

hindi ka ibinagsak, bumagsak ka dahil nung abalang nagtuturo si guro ay abala ka din sa pakikipagkwentuhan at pakikipagdal dalan sa kaklase mo ung tipong 48/50 ay nkikinig sa guro pero bakit kaung 2/50 ay hindi tuloy nagtatanong si guro sa sarili kung siya ba ang may problema…

hindi ka ibinagsak, bumagsak ka dahil nung mag written output na bigla kang nawala at di na bumalik pa, ayon andun kna pala sa kantena nauna ng nagmeryenda…

hindi ka ibinagsak, bumagsak ka dahil nung magperformance task na di ka sumali sa grupo at mas pinili mong mamasyal, umabsent at magbisyo kasama ng iyong mga barkada at ng papagawan ka ng individual performance task malakas pa loob mong tumanggi na para bang pakiramdam mo papasa ka ng walang ginagawa…

hindi ka ibinagsak, bumagsak ka dahil nung hinahanap ka ni guro sa paaralan, sa kalsada, sa inyong barangay upang ipaalala sayo na kelangan mong pumasok ay hindi ka mahagilap na para bagang pakiramdam mo papasa ka kahit no show ka…

hindi ka ibinagsak, bumagsak ka dahil nung sinabihan kang tawagin ang iyong magulang para sa iyong pag aaral na sobra na sa pagliban ay walang pmupunta ngunit kapag certification always present nan sila… na pati home visitation ay wala ng TALAB para pumasok ka…

hindi ka ibinagsak, bumagsak ka dahil ng si guro ay nagbigay ng sangkatutak na palugit at remedial ay siya namang sangkatutak na dahilan ang ibinigay mo para ikay lalong lumiban…

hindi ka ibinagsak, dahil walang kakayahan si gurong ibagsak ka lalo kong alam mong kompleto sa WW, PT at Periodic test…
bumagsak ka dahil alam mong ni isa ay wala kang ginawa… o kung meron man ay tlagang di aabot sa PITUMPOT LIMA…

PERO WAG KANG MAG ALALA MAY SECOND QUARTER PA. redeem yourself kaya mo yan KID….

“HINDI PO MATAAS ANG STANDARD NI GURO at kami ay maximum tolerance sa lahat ng bagay ngunit nasaan ang hustisya sa BATANG DI PUMAPASOK ng walang valid reason…with all the possible intervention given, talaga bang natutulungan natin sila kung sila ay papasa ng walang ginagawa o tinotolerate lang natin ang katamaraan nila na in the long run lalong di natin NATULUNGAN?”

give a man a fish and he will live for a day but teach the man how to fish and he will live a lifetime…

bigyan mo ang bata ng pasadong grado at papasa siya…oo papasa siya… pero turuan mo ang bata kung paano matuto ay matututo siya sa buong buhay nya mataas man o mababa ang marka .

CreditToTheOwner by: Sir Jovelano Urzame

Timeline

when i was younger, i used to tell myself that i will be somewhere at the age i want. i used to tell myself that i should cross out in red all the things i penned in my bucket list at the end of the year. it’s good to have dreams and goals for they keep us living and moving. but i learned that we are always drawn to our own timeline. that being said, i believe that things that are meant for us will eventually be ours. but while we are hustling for these things, may we never forget to take pauses in between.

we may not be able to achieve and live anything on time just like how others achieved and lived theirs, but we will definitely get there in His time. who knows, our breakthrough is one step closer.

—jaeka

SLOW DOWN AND BE PATIENT WITH LIFE

SLOW DOWN AND BE PATIENT WITH LIFE

If You Are Looking For Wealth, Somebody else Is Looking For Health.

If You Are Looking For Health, Somebody else Just Dièd.

If You are Looking For Power, Somebody else Has Acquired And Used it, And he/she is now Powerless.

Each Time You Drive A Fancy Car, Somebody, Somewhere Is Dying In A Car Crash.

Each Time a New Mansion Springs From The Earth, A New Grave is Dug Below The Earth.

Each Time You Throw Away A Morsel, Somebody else somewhere is Searching For a Morsel To Survive.

Each Time You Throw Food Into Dustbin, Someone else Is Looking For Remnant To Eat.

Each Time You Ask God To Promote or Change Your Present Situation, Someone else Is Praying to Get To Your Present Situation.

For Each Smile On The Planet, There’s a Drop Of Tear In Another Place On The Planet.

For Each Celebration Of Childbirth, There Are Tears of Bùrial.

Each Time You Urinate Or Drink Water, Remember Someone Is Using Pipe For The Same Purpòse.

So Always Be Thankful.

Think of the Goodness u have rather than the vanities u long for,..

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OFWS ARE BREADWINNERS, BUT SOME FAMILY MEMBERS WANT THE BAKERY?

OFWS ARE BREADWINNERS, BUT SOME FAMILY MEMBERS WANT THE BAKERY?

An OFW once shared with me these stories:

▪️ A brother asking for extra money for a “business”
▪️ A cousin asking money for her niece’ birthday bash

The OFW asked me, “Is it an act of humility to provide for these requests, even if it’s hard to do so?”

Maybe.

But at the same time, giving in to these non-important requests is sending a wrong message. They would think that it’s okay and won’t feel that money is a problem for you. Sooner or later it will become a habit.

So how to deal with it? Two things: TS (“Ti-is”)

1️⃣ T for TOUGH LOVE

If you are married with kids, your spouse and your own children are your priority. It is not your role to provide for the wants, and even the needs of your relatives. But, as embedded on our culture, we do this out of love.

But giving is not the only way to show love.

Say no. Not giving them everything doesn’t mean you love them less. Loving does not mean you give all they want. You wake them up from the toxic mentality. You need to let them realize that you have a family of your own to feed. If they feel bad, take it, even if it pinches your heart too. That’s the only way to help them stand on their own feet. That’s what TOUGH LOVE means – you teach them how to become responsible.

2️⃣S for SELF CARE

OFWs often neglect caring for themselves because they are too busy taking care also of the extended family – ate, kuya, pinsan, pamangkin, tito and tita, etc.

Kumusta naman ang sarili mong pangarap?

We don’t realize, as we work diligently abroad, we could already be in a position to reach our dreams. But when giving becomes an obligation, we deprive ourselves of that opportunity to work on our personal goals. Because the finances that we could have invested in ourselves go to the family back home instead.

Giving is a noble act, a very selfless gesture – especially when done with joy and a cheerful heart. But if it’s becoming a burden and not out of the overflow of the heart anymore, we have a problem.

Don’t wait for the day that what’s left on your plate are just breadcrumbs because you gave them the bakery.

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