Panganay

Being a “panganay” is so hard.

We always have the biggest and heaviest role in the family. We are expected to be the “breadwinner”. We should be the “perfect” example to our younger siblings. We need to be “cautious” of our words and actions. We should be “polite” all the time. As if it’s a sin for us to be seen as a weak person. We should never let our emotions out. We should not disappoint anyone.

But, not all the times we have the strength to go every single day. We do have our own share of struggles. We cry at night in our own room unable to share to anyone our feelings. We reprimanded our own selves when things get out of hand (especially when it comes to our siblings and parents). We always keep in our selves the things that hurt and pain us. We do not speak of our struggle.

Why am I saying these things? Because I want to be the voice of those “panganay” who are struggling right now for their family; to those people who are working hard day and night.

A simple “hello, kumusta?” Or “okay ka lang?” can make our day. Because those simple words will remind us that we have a reason to keep going and they are always in our back to support us. It reminds us that we are not alone in our fight.

We always say this to our selves “Kapag may kailangan ako, kanino ako pwedeng tumakbo?” And it hurts that nothing in our mind can we found comfort while struggling. A simple “thank you” can lift up a part of the burden we are carrying. So, please let your “panganay” be reminded that you are there for a support. They needed it badly.

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