Month: June 2020
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Over the course of more or less 3 months, when most of us didn’t have anywhere to go and anything to do but to burry our heads in social media, some of my principles and online etiquette have been redefined and some even changed totally.
Every single post I put online is an “invitation” for a reaction/comment whether it favors my narrative or not, whether I like it or not. Whether it be truth or mere opinion — I am always up for people’s reaction and response. So it’s not always wise to treat my social media as an extension of my brain. You know, not every single thought you have has to be there out in public.
Madami akong say or sariling perspective about certain issues. Kung hindi ko pagiisipang mabuti (lalo it it provokes debate) at hindi ko ifi-filter ang mga words na gagamitin ko, it defeats the purpose of educating/encouraging/inspiring (to say the least) my audience. Para lang akong empty na lata na nag-iingay para makakuha ng attention at validation from others. Why do I even need praises from people in the first place? Kakahiya naman sa Diyos na tumubos sa akin kung hanggang ngayon eh kilig na kilig pa din ako sa mga pag puri ng tao saakin.
Napansin ko din na if a certain post or article is ill-motivated, sarcastic/shady or magnifies hate towards opposite perspective kahit gaano pa katotoo at kaganda ang pagkaka construct – hindi ako naco-convince (not that I’m an important audience para i-convince). I’m not sure if it’s just me, siguro may mga makaka-relate din dito. Coz if the purpose ay baguhin ang isip ng nakakabasa, hindi gumagana yung style na “bobong bobo” tayo sa mga iba ang take on a certain topic. Honestly, I kept people in my timeline kahit opposing views as long as “matalino at makatao” ang style ng pagsulat. Kasi kung ang ikkeep ko lang eh yung mga kaparehas ko ng perspective eh baka malason ako ng sarili kong ego.
Everytime I read something na I am in disagreement with, I step back at tumingin tingin muna sa paligid and try to remove my biases by reading more about what triggered my disagreement. It also takes a humble heart na irecognize na tama pala siya at mali ako. Bibihira lang ang may kaya nyan.
Lastly, I learned to value relationships more than my ego. Kung nararamdaman kong sa pagpatol ko eh magccreate ng dent sa relationship ko sa tao, I shut up. Salamat din sa asawa ko na parati akong nire-remind na: “hindi kayo naging friends dahil parehas ang views nyo about (insert issue), so just keep your mouth shut”.
If you’re still reading up to this point, thank you. Kung may gusto kang icomment at ikontra sa sinabi ko, pwede ka naman mag comment jan sa baba pero I’d appreciate kung PM para naman hindi tayo pag piyestahan ng tao 😂
Hindi pa to pang fathers’ day post, bukas na yun.
Rant of j.damian
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