The truth is that she’s eventually going to find out the truth, and you should never underestimate her ability to eventually find things out. Trust and honesty are always going to be important aspects of any kind of relationship. And that’s why you can’t afford to be making a fool out of your girl. If you want to keep her in your life; if you know what’s good for you, then you’re always going to stay honest and true with her. Because at the end of the day, a relationship without trust and honesty is a dysfunctional one.
And you’re just never going to be able to make things work if the both of you can’t trust one another. You’re never going to be able to find peace in your relationship if you are constantly lying to one another. And don’t think that you’re looking out for yourself by lying to her. Because she’s always going to find out. The truth always comes out eventually. And you will be in even bigger trouble for lying to her than just coming straight out with the truth in the first place.
Here’s the thing. Only the strongest men are capable of coming to terms with the truth. Only the strongest men are brave enough to actually be bearers and upholders of truth in a relationship. The cowardly men; the immature ones who are afraid of accepting responsibility for their faults; these are the ones who resort to lies. And a lot of times, these serial and pathological liars are the ones who bring a lot of toxicity and dysfunction into a relationship. Usually, it’s these men who are always messing everything up.
Usually, it’s these types of men who are virtually incapable of sustaining long-lasting relationships with women because of their dishonesty and immaturity. Remember that in any kind of relationship, you always need to be mature in order for you to have the temperance to make things work. But one of the biggest signs of immaturity in a relationship is just flat out dishonesty. And if you think that you are going to be able to get away with your lies; if you think that you are going to be able to make your relationship work even though you’re a serial liar, then you have another thing coming to you. You can’t keep on lying to your woman if you expect to make your love affair work. In fact, dishonesty has a tendency to really drive out love in a relationship. And the more you lie to her, the more you are creating distance between the two of you.
And don’t underestimate the strength and bravery of a woman. You might think that it’s okay for you to manipulate and abuse her all you want. You might think that it’s okay for you to deceive her and conceal the truth from her. You might think that you are going to be able to keep up your terrible treatment of her for as long as you want. But that’s not the case. Sure, she might seem gullible and foolish at first. But that’s only because of her love for you. She’s going to turn a blind eye to these manipulative tactics because she loves you. But that love isn’t always going to last.
The more that you continue to lie to her, the more she’s going to distrust you. And the more she distrusts you, the less she’s going to love you. And when there is no love, that’s when her vision will become as clear as day. That’s when she’ll realize just how terrible a human being you really are. That’s when she will realize that you have a horrible soul and a dark heart that isn’t worth loving. If you keep on lying to her, that’s when she’s eventually going to start fighting back. She’s going to stand up for herself. She’s going to demand to be treated better. She’s going to call you out on your lies and she’s going to force you to make a change. And if you refuse to do so, then she’s going to leave you. You’re going to lose her and there won’t be anything you can do about it. Because trust is a lot like glass – once it’s broken, it can never really be the same.
So always be working hard for the trust that she has to give. Always work hard to earn her trust by always staying true to her. Respect her enough to know that she is always worthy of the truth. Respect her enough to always come clean about who you are, what you do, and how you feel. Because if you can’t be honest with her, then you can’t be deserving of her love.
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