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You Need To Give Up On The Man Who Doesn’t Want To Be With You
The truth is that you just deserve better.
You are strong and you are brave. You put yourself out there and you make yourself vulnerable. You know you are opening yourself up to potentially getting hurt but you don’t care. You know that that’s something you have to do for you to find the love that you feel you are deserving of. You are patient and you are understanding. You know that no one is perfect and not everyone is always going to treat you the way that you deserve to be treated. And when people wrong you, you try to empathize instead of acting out. You try to forgive instead of being vengeful. You try your best to make a relationship work with a man even if he’s bad for you because you are just too stubborn to let go of whatever it is you have with one another.
And that’s good. You shouldn’t be willing to throw things away so easily. You always have to make sure that you work your absolute hardest just to keep the people you love close to you. You always have to put maximum effort in your relationships – and that means staying strong even when it’s difficult. That means you actually staying committed to one another even when it’s inconvenient to do so. But you also have to acknowledge that there are limits to everything and to everyone. We can only try so hard to make something work before everything else starts collapsing on us. There is a sticking point in every relationship – where after all efforts have been exhausted, and it’s time to just walk away. It’s time to just move on. It’s time to move on from the man who just plain doesn’t want to be with you.
You have to think that there is only really so much of yourself that you can give to another person. And you have to consider everything that you’ve already given this man. You have to take into consideration just how many pieces of your heart you’ve given away to someone who doesn’t really want any of it. You have to stop giving so much of yourself to someone who isn’t willing to reciprocate the gesture.
The truth is that you just deserve better. The love that you deserve is something that you have to continually search and fight for – but you have to know that it’s really not with this person. You might not be able to believe that there’s a man out there who is better for you. You might not think that you could ever fall for someone who could be as great as this guy now – but you will. You just have to have faith in yourself and in love.
The longer that you stay with him, the more that you deprive yourself of actually finding that love you so desperately want for yourself. You can’t afford to let yourself get tied down to this person who just seems incapable of giving you what you want. At the end of the day, the longer that you cling to this guy, then you are also essentially closing yourself off from other opportunities. You are depriving yourself of the chance of meeting a guy who is actually going to treat you the way that you deserve to be treated. Because you just can’t make space for someone new unless you learn to let go of the man who occupies your heart now.
It’s draining and it’s exhausting. This manner of going about life just isn’t sustainable. You aren’t going to be able to keep going on like this. You are breaking your heart more and more every day. Every second that you decide to not let go, you are just chipping away at your soul. You don’t want to wait around and see what happens when there’s practically nothing left to chip away from. You don’t want it to get to that point and that’s why it’s important for you to just end things now.
And while it can be difficult to let go for now, just be confident in the fact that all of the lessons that you’re learning for yourself at this moment are going to help you in the long run. One of the major factors of not wanting to let go is thinking that all efforts you’ve invested will have been for nothing. But you shouldn’t be thinking of it like that. Think of this temporary setback with this man as a necessary step for you to have taken to really find the love that you want for yourself. You just have to make sure that in your process of letting go and moving on, you take all the lessons with you so that you don’t make the same mistakes anymore with the guy you’re destined to be with.
So keep holding on to that belief in love. Don’t be afraid to move on. Let go. Release. Detach.
Merry Christmas everyone!
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