2017 rp

​2017 Is The Year To Say Goodbye To Fuckboys And Hello To A Better You
I spent these last few weeks of 2016 swiping left and right for fuckboys. As 2017 is quickly approaching, I realized that 2017 is the year I will be saying goodbye to these fuckboys. These are the lessons I’ve learned, and I thank my best friends wholeheartedly for drilling these into my head, which have now become my daily mantras to welcome my best self yet.
You can’t ask someone to be in your life; they have to be there willingly.
There is no need to chase people. A relationship is a two-way street, where both parties are required to put in their solid 100% effort, but you are only required to put in your 50% of that 100%. If he doesn’t reply your texts, then leave it. You deserve more than someone who doesn’t have the decency to take 5 seconds out of their day to tell you that they’re busy or unavailable to you.
If someone is sending you mixed signals, a snap over here and an Insta like over there, but doesn’t reply to your messages or phone calls, they aren’t serious enough for your time and affection.
If someone doesn’t reply when you ask to hangout or for something more, leave them. You deserve someone who will give you definite answers. You deserve someone who doesn’t play games with your head and heart or toy your emotions. There is no need to beg. The moment you start to realize that you become desperate and yearn for any reaction out of them is the moment you walk away. Your self-worth is more than spamming texts and snaps in hopes they’d reply. Either you stay or you go, and most likely it’s time for you to go.
Never settle.
Stop making excuses for why he doesn’t reply in exchange for those dumb and meaningless likes on your latest Instagram pic or Facebook post. Stop feeding into those drunk snaps at 1am on a Wednesday. If he wanted you, he would have said so. He would have taken every moment he had to get to know you, the real you, at 1pm in the sunlight. You don’t have to compromise his inconsistent attitude, even if he is good eye candy. You sat on the floor crying for a reason.
You deserve a better man, one who cares about every single part of you, and thinks your humor and passionate heart is more beautiful than the color of your hair or the makeup on your face. But sometimes there is no better man, so why waste time on all these flaky and inconsistent fuckboys when you can spend time on yourself instead?
2017 is the year to say goodbye to boys who simply do not appreciate and respect you.
There is a better version of you waiting to be explored, strengthened, and grown. 2017 is the year you’ll find that you are the most worthwhile; there is simply no fuckboy better. 
💌 Charlotte Nip

Jeep…rp

​12 PA-DEEP THOUGHTS WHEN MAKING SAKAY SA JEEPNEY
I. Wala yan sa tagal ng trapik, nasa soundtrip yan ni Manong. Parang pag-ibig. Wala yan sa tagal ng relasyon, nasa lalim yan at saya ng pinagsamahan.
II. Ang pag-ibig ay parang pagsakay sa jeep. Tipong gusto mong sumakay sa harapan pero doon ka lang talaga sa likod. #FriendzonedLevel99.
III. Kapag sinabi ni manong na “Barya-barya lang po sa umaga”, hindi legs mong puro peklat ang tinutukoy niya. Kahit gaano kalaki ng ibinigay mo, minsan, kailangan pa ring ibalik dahil hindi na kayang suklian. Parang pag-ibig.
IV. Minsan, kelangan mo talagang sabihin ang mga katagang, “Makikiurong na lang po” para lang makaupo. Okay lang makipagsiksikan basta alam mo sa sarili mong hindi ka masasaktan. #TingaMode
V. Ang pagsakay sa jeep ay parang pride, Kelangan mong yumuko kapag sasakay ka. Baka mauntog ka. #TangaKaPaNaman
VI. May mga taong kakasakay lang pero maya-maya bababa na din agad. Minsan, yun lang talaga ang purpose nila. Para maramdaman mong hindi ka nag-iisa habang nasa biyahe ka. #LandiLandiDinParaHindiBoring
VII. Para tayong pamasahe sa jeep, marami kang madadaanan at makikilala bago ka makarating sa tunay na nagmamay-ari sa’yo. Mahuhulog ka pero may pupulot at pupulot sa’yo. Kahit gaano ka kalandi, dun pa rin ang punta mo sa taong talagang seseryoso sa’yo. #BoomLaspag
VIII. Kung kelan nagmamadali ka, saka maiisip ni manong na magpagasolina hanggang sa abutan ka ng matinding trapik. Parang pag-ibig. Darating din yan. it’s either nalate lang siya or atat ka lang. 
IX. Kahit hindi ka si Maja, learn how to say, “Manong. Dahan-dahan lang po.” Madalas nasasaktan kapag lalong nagmamadali. Ang love ay may sariling timeline at timezone.
X. Ang pag-ibig ay parang paghihintay ng jeep. Lalampasan ka lang kapag pumara ka dahil puno na. Pero palagi mong isipin na marami pang pumapasada, #ParaLangNgPara. 
XI. Nakakapagod maghold-on kung palagi na lang nakasabit. Mahirap humanap ng space sa isang bagay na hindi lang ikaw ang laman. 
XII. At minsan kelangan mo ng sumigaw ng, “Manonggg!!!! Parrrraa!!!!!” dahil sadyang hanggang dun na lang talaga. Know when to stop kapag alam mong mali na. #BoomLampas
Source: israelmekaniko

​If You Haven’t Found Your Forever Person Yet‬….Rp

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‪We are all in so much of a rush to find ‘the one’ that we end up hurting ourselves in the long run. We all want that ‘person’ to just fall onto our laps the second we become single. And when we are in relationships, we are absolutely convinced that it will be forever.‬
‪But then it ends, and we have to start all over again.‬
‪Why are we all so quick to jump into relationship after relationship without ever really thinking about what we need and want? Why are we all so quick to feel a sense of shame in ourselves when we tell other people we are single? And why are we all so quick to jump from person to person instead of wanting to create an actual meaningful partnership?‬
‪I know we all want it so desperately. We all want to find ‘the one’. And I get it. I understand the feeling of wanting to share your life with someone. But we need to stop jumping off the ship without looking at what is underneath us. And we need to stop drowning whenever we find ourselves alone.‬
‪Here’s the thing, you need to be ok first without being in a relationship. You need to feel fully whole on your own.‬

‪Only then, will you be ready to be in a meaningful relationship. Only then will you be ready to have someone love you as much as you love yourself.‬
‪So please, stop rushing. Stop obsessing over your nonexistent love life. Stop searching. Stop trying so damn hard. And stop looking. ‬
‪Finding your forever person is an important feat, but it is not everything. Because you know what? You need to be your forever person. You need to be your own hero and your own lover. You need to be your own relationship, by yourself. You need to be happy on your own. You need to love you for you, not you when you’re with someone else.‬
‪So, who cares if you haven’t found someone yet? Who cares if you are single during the holidays? Who cares if all your other friends are in relationships?‬
‪Be the kind of person that is ok without someone else. Be the kind of person that is strong and powerful on your own. Be the kind of person who knows that yes, you are your own forever. And you are wonderful and beautiful on your own.‬
‪Only then, will you be ready to find true love. Only after you fall in love with yourself, is when you will be able to open yourself up to someone else. Only when you view yourself as a whole person is when you can finally be someone’s other half. 
💌 Lauren Jarvis-Gibson

​When You’re In Your Darkest Hour…rp

You might be alone in your room thinking if things could get any worse than it already is.
You’re right.
It could be worse later, tomorrow or maybe a few weeks from now. Nobody knows maybe the earth will suddenly shatter into pieces or a meteor might hit and wipe out our existence. Nobody knows. Nobody knows if you are meant to do the things you’ve always wanted to do or if you’ll fall in love with someone you didn’t see coming. The world as it is — mysterious and unpredictable; messed up, yet absolutely worth living for.
And that’s why if you’re reading this, don’t give up on yourself.
For all your worries, fears, hopelessness and heartache will be replaced with feelings that will make you forget what it felt like to fall helplessly into the never ending anxiety that creeps in from time to time.

Don’t give up on yourself. For all the times you felt like you’re never good enough, you will someday discover what your heart beats for. You will feel passion for the things you do not because you’re good at it, but because it makes you feel like you’ve finally found something to remind you that you just need self-discovery. We all have something we’re not good at, but you shouldn’t forget that we have other things we’re good at — too.
Don’t give up on yourself. Those times when you look at the mirror and start to question why you look, act or even exist because all that you can think about is how sh*tty you are. Those times when you tried to change to fit the standards and expectations of society for the fear of judgements that not only hurt you, but give you even more reasons to hate yourself. Just don’t give up on yourself, by giving up meaning letting negativity get to you and hate every part of you because you’re too tired to keep going. Someday maybe not today, you will find courage to embrace every flaw and love the pieces that make you whole — and that will be your power because no one else is you. They say you shouldn’t hurt the people you love. The question is, will you still get hurt the moment you learn to love yourself?
Don’t give up on yourself because at the end of those days when you felt all of that, you’re all alone. You are your own hero. The strength you have left the moment you close your eyes before falling asleep is all that you have — and frankly, the only thing that can save you the next day you wake up.
Don’t give up on yourself because the beauty of life isn’t only about blissful days. It’s the thrill of not knowing what’s to come.
But how will you know if all these good things will happen? Simple.
Every time you feel like giving up on yourself; get up, focus on bettering yourself, build the right mindset and hope for better days even if it burns you a little — that’s the only way to keep going.
Again, the world as it is — mysterious and unpredictable; messed up, yet absolutely worth living for. That’s why you shouldn’t give up now. 
✉ Kyla Fallorina

​27 Things to take into 2017 rp

1. I know letting go may feel like hitting pavement but sometimes staying is like getting hit by a train you’ve seen coming for miles.

2. There are symphonies that are screaming it is going to get better. Listen to the music.

3. The most fight you’ll ever feel is from inside your heart.

4. Nostalgia is only good for telling you bedtime stories. Don’t let it tuck you in at night, don’t let it keep you warm.

5. Keep the moments that you wish could live on for a gazillion years close to your heart, never let them burn out.

6. You’ll find someone that’s not them. You’ll love again and it’ll be pure and significant in its own way.

7. They remember it all. They’ll see how much you impacted their lives much later.

8. You may hate high school, but it’s when it’s almost over that you get flashes of when you were young and passed notes with your first love in art class and had talks with teachers that really mattered and you’ll want it to slow down. Take it in, there’s good in everything.

9. Sometimes the one that was your perfect match will be the one to watch you burn.

10. What’s meant to be yours will always find its way home.

11. It’s okay to change without them. Remember that you are the main character of your story.

12. Music cures it all.

13. Telling the story of how I fell in love with you still warms me from the inside out. Teach me how to let go of you.

14. Falling out of love makes you feel like you’ll never want to do it again, but the feeling of your heart dropping when he tells you he’s wanted you all these years is worth the stab at the end.

15. You jump off the cliff hoping there won’t be daggers at the bottom, and when you’re young you think you know how much it’ll hurt. When it comes, you’ll realize you had no clue.

16. My biggest fear was not being with you. I’m becoming someone without you, and it doesn’t feel right.

17. The nicer you are, the more beautiful you become.

18. One day you’ll meet again, and it’ll be just as scary and beautiful as the first time.

19. You’ll find your person. You may not recognize them at first because they’re not as shiny as they are in the movies, but you’ll know by the calm they bring.

20. Thank God for him. 

21. The boy who runs in my dreams isn’t as dishonest. He holds my hand whenever I need to feel less alone and I sit around his kitchen table and talk to his mother about poetry. She goes on to say something about how statistically people are more afraid of love than anything else and the things I don’t say- tell her all there is to know about me. That I’m afraid beyond measure of what love can do to a person. Because I spent the last two years loving someone who didn’t know anything other than tearing apart the sole purpose of my existence. The boy who runs beside me in my dreams convinces me that love isn’t always teeth and bite marks. In my dreams, my scars aren’t there because I never tasted a bitter love before. The boy in my dreams loves me enough to let me meet his mother and destroys the idea that love is what I came here to die for.

22. Maybe love stays, maybe love can’t. Maybe love shouldn’t.

23. I glance off in another direction, but I always glance back at you.

24. Things that are sweet like this attract the worst kind of hungry.

25. I don’t think you’ll ever realize you changed everything for me.

26. I found faith that summer. The lips told stories I fell asleep to, the hands promised to hold on. But bliss is temporary when you pull your hands away from your eyes, and summer only lasts 3 months.

27. Let it pass; April is over, April is over. There are all kinds of love in this world, but never the same love twice.
✉ Rosey Heart

​20 Little Ways To Please Your Guy..rp

1. Send him a good morning text to let him know you are thinking about him.
2. Put your phone down when you’re on a date with him.
3. Surprise him on a Sunday morning with breakfast in bed.
4. Always let him know how much he means to you, and how lucky you are to have him.
5. Pay the bill on an anniversary dinner and don’t let him split it with you.
6. Send him chocolates on a random Monday at work.
7. After a long day, give him a mind blowing foot massage.
8. Bake him his favorite kind of cookies when he seems super stressed out.
9. Show him your adventurous side and spend a Saturday with him going to a rollercoaster park.
10. Make his bed when he isn’t looking.
11. Befriend his best guy friends to show him how dedicated you are to him.
12. Put tiny love notes in his pocket when he’s getting ready for work.
13. Cook him his favorite meal just because.
14. Help him pick out a great and professional work outfit.
15. Spend some nights on the couch, cuddling with one of his favorite movies on.
16. Write him a long letter listing all the reasons you love him.
17. Give him space and let him have nights out with his buds with no grief.
18. Don’t freak out or yell at him when you see him talking to another girl. Let him know that you trust him.
19. Dress to the nines out of the blue and light up his world.
20. Give him a big long hug every day to show him how much you deeply care about him. 
💌 Lauren Jarvis-Gibson

​When Letting Go Is Your Only Choice…

I have spent the last 4 years holding onto the hope of a relationship with someone who does not love nor accept himself and therefore could not love and accept me. But I chose to stay—even after every warning sign, every fight, every mean word exchanged, and every false promise of a future together.
I stayed because I loved him with all of my being. It took me 4 years, many conversations with friends and family, and lots of tears to finally say goodbye to the person I thought was the love of my life. But letting go was my only choice and this is how I knew:
I felt like I couldn’t breathe. There were days where I could not catch my breath when all of my memories of him surfaced—the good, the bad, and the ugly. I was angry and sad, and consumed with emotion so much so that it felt as if the wind was knocked out of me.
I’d think to myself, “Did someone just sock me in the stomach? Is this what a mental breakdown feels like?”  I would catch myself having to stop in the middle of a hallway and hold onto to whatever I could grab to catch my breath as I said to myself, “How did we get here? When did it get this bad?” I physically was responding to my emotions and they were interfering with my everyday life.
The words we exchanged were mean and hate- filled. We tried countless times to start over and repair what was broken, although by never fully dealing with the damage that had already occurred, resentment built up and it caused the both of us to lash out and say things that came from a hurtful place. I said things to hurt him because I was so heartbroken and I did not know how to cope with that pain.
The only thing I accomplished by lashing out was hurting someone I loved deeply and immediately having self-hatred for being so cruel. How do we manage to hurt the ones we love the most in the most vicious way? Our conversations were no longer productive; we were in a constant state of arguing.
 I was hurting the people I loved the most. I have some of the most incredible friends in my life but after nearly 5 years of repeat conversations about the need to let go and move on, and my consistency for choosing to ignore their wise words, it took a toll on my relationships. I chose to give this person a chance over and over when clearly all he was doing was hurting me and treating me without any little respect. My friends love me—they remind me of that daily.
But many of them grew exhausted with the endless conversations of, “he will choose me, he just needs time to figure out who he is, when will this stop hurting?” My friends could only tell me so many times that I needed to walk away before they themselves needed to take a step back to protect themselves. Many of them have admitted how hard it was to watch me put myself in a positon to be hurt over and over again. But it was a lesson only I could learn.
I began to feel worthless and felt lost. It feels like I lost who I was a long time ago. When I started loving him, he consumed me. Everything about my life revolved about this one relationship—how could I make it work, how could I change myself to fit the mold he had created for me, how could I continue to wait even after waiting for almost five  years. It dawned on me one day that the things people love about me most—my compassion, my quirkiness, and my intense passion–he disliked about me the most.
I felt myself changing constantly to fit who I thought he wanted me to be. But it never seemed good enough. I would dress differently, communicate differently, overanalyze every conversation; the list goes on and on. By doing this, I lost myself and lost my self-worth. I lost the parts of me that were spontaneous and outgoing, (and I missed it a lot) those being replaced by anxiety and fear.
But most of all, I lost any self-value and self-worth I had. he didn’t accept who he was and kept our relationship a secret from every single person in his life. By denying that our relationship existed, that morphed into me believing I was not valued enough for him to choose me. I felt unworthy of him and his time; I never was a priority; I was always the second option. I started to hate myself and constantly questioned the purpose of my existence.
It took four years and counting to realize that walking away was my only choice. It took losing self-control, and losing self-worth to walk away. But I am worthy. I do matter. And one day, I will be able to breathe again. I was just so thankful for my family and friends they never leave me..

Goodbye… 

​Fuckboys Have Feelings Too..rp

Lately everywhere I turn I hear girls complaining about the latest “fuckboy” in their life. Girls define this term as a guy who sleeps around and talks to multiple girls at once. To be totally honest, the word fuckboy makes me want to bang my head against a wall. Not only is it stupid, but when you reread the definition of the word but substitute the gender to a girl, the word used would typically be “slut.”
The reality of it is that you can’t be anti slut-shaming if you flagrantly describe men as fuckboys.
The word fuckboy completely invalidates the idea that guys have feelings and have the capacity to want more than sex.

Truth is, all of the so-called fuck boys I’ve encountered don’t know what they want. They’re just as confused as the rest of us. And if they’re not, maybe they just got out of a long-term relationship. Or maybe they’re engaging in casual sex because they’re not ready for a serious commitment, and just want to play the field. Either way, it’s their prerogative and doesn’t make them bad people.
At the end of the day, the issue lies in miscommunication. When a guy has sex with a girl, he usually thinks she’s on the same page as him—it’s just for fun. And if it seems like he’s leading her on, he probably doesn’t realize the way his behavior reads. Most guys are genuinely ignorant that their “playful banter” could be misconstrued as more than what it is.
I admit it— there are some guys who deliberately tell a girl whatever they think she wants to hear to get into her pants. And that’s pretty shitty of them. But what I’ve also noticed from this is that girls even when girls recognize this is the case, they still try to “play the game” and try to “be the one to change him” by getting him to commit to them. It’s equally as entertaining for the girl as it is for the guy. Sure, maybe you’ll win, but if you fail, whose fault is it other than your own? You knew what you were getting into when you began talking to him.
You knew he didn’t want anything serious.

You could’ve just walked away when you initially realized your intentions didn’t line up with his.
Girls also think the word fuck boy is acceptable because guys take pride in how good their game is. That may be true, but if you reverse the roles, a girl who who pulls a lot of guys is called a slut, which is insulting. You can’t argue that women and men should be treated equally if you don’t agree that what’s wrong for one gender is okay for the other. Both words are derogatory and unfair labels. If you don’t respect someone’s behaviors, just don’t interact with them. It’s really that simple.
She’s not a slut. And he’s not a fuck boy. We’re all just people. 
✉️ Melissa Kerman

​You are my only exception…rp

At a young age, I already got my heart broken. I cannot just call it puppy love because the loVe i had for a guy literally shattered my heart into pieces and I spent more than five years of fixing my heart. Ever since I felt pain, everything changes. Pain is a thing that is very hard to deal with. When you start to feel pain all you are ever going to do is try to avoid it, you will start to separate yourself from others to save yourself from hurting. Because you cannot afford to get hurt anymore, you don’t know if you will ever survive the pain. When I felt pain, I started to build a wall around my heart, I started to list down standards, I started to set boundaries, so that no one will ever reach it. No one will ever be able to enter my heart and then steel everything that is inside it, I don’t want to feel empty. I want no one to ever be able to climb the walls I build and I want no one to reach the boundaries that I set. I become bitter. Because I thought it is not worth it, when somebody tells me they like me, I never believed any of them, because eventually they will get tired of waiting and then they will just leave me. 
So I separated myself and got used to the comfort of loneliness. I was able to keep a straight face, sometimes with curve lips even without someone or even not being in a relationship with someone. Just me. Myself. And I. 
But then I met you. I met you and I asked myself ‘why not?’ why not try this time? It might work out. You might be the person that I am waiting for. You might be the one. So, the distance I made to separate myself from others vanished. I started to put down my walls and lowered the boundaries that I set. I forgot the pain I felt back then, I forgot all the bitter memories and started to hope that this time, I might be able to make a happy one. You were my only exception. 
I let you in. I opened up to you, even if I barely know you I just have this strong feeling inside of me that I need to get close with you. You told me you like me, and I believed in you, even if I never believed anyone who told me that. I never avoided you. I even find ways to see you everyday, to see your face, to see your smile, to hear your voice, to see you. I lowered my boundaries for you to reach it. I lowered the wall I build up around my heart for you to be able to climb it. It got to the point where you got inside my heart. You are the only person I did that for. You are the only person I let inside my heart. You are the only person I lowered my boundaries and standards for, you are the only person I allowed to climb my walls. You are the only person I sacrificed my heart for, since then. But the history found a way to repeat itself. 
The pain I felt at a young age, I felt it again but this this time it hurts even more because I was the one to make the adjustment and effort. 
I let you in then you stole everything and left me with nothing. I knew from the beginning that this might happen but I still let you in. But even if I knew I didn’t let you go, instead I hold on to you so tight so that you wont be able to go, when you are finally inside my heart. But I got tired of holding on because I realized you can never love me. You just needed me to get your emotions and feelings back. And that is what you stole, my emotions and feelings, I am now my old self. Cold and bitter. Now, that you are done using me, you throwed me. 
But darling I want you to know, that still, you are the only person I am willing to sacrifice my heart for and I will never ever do that to another person ever again. You are my only exception. So, back to the same old me where my walls are higher and thicker, so that it is not easy to break and climb. Where my boundaries and standards are higher than ever so no one will ever reach it. Because I realized, it’s not me that will do the adjusting. It’s them, I deserve an effort.
✉️ Josephine Hernando

​I Can’t Tell You I Love You But I Do…rp

I look at you as more than what you are to me currently. Because to me you are everything. Everything I’ve ever wanted but mostly because you treat me as though I matter. As if my opinions and everything I want is important to you too. And that’s what love is.
But I can’t tell you I love you.

I can’t tell you that every night before I go to sleep I think about you. I think about you when it’s dead at work and I’m just wishing I’m anywhere else. I think about you when I can’t get through the day without wanting to cry. You are home to me and just hearing your voice reminds me how that feels.
And when people ask me if I’m in love with you I tell them no. Because I don’t want to be the cause of losing you. Even though we mean so much to each other, it doesn’t mean that we need to be together. That’s when the lines of loving someone and being in love with someone are blurred. And my lines with you are so blurry. I can’t even tell you what’s going on in my mind and my heart because I don’t know.
Sometimes we’re meant to meet someone who takes our breath away but not get to be with that person. And it’s unfair. It’s so unfair that we are surrounded by their beauty but we can’t touch them. We can’t tell them how much they mean to us without giving away our secret. We can’t let them know that they’re the last thing we see at night and the first name we breathe as we wake up.
We can learn so much from each other but only if we keep it to the capacity that it’s at. And I’m not fully sure risking everything to tell you my feelings would be the smartest because I don’t feel as though we’re on the same page. And that’s OK. It’s OK to not be exactly at the same moments in life. It’s OK to not feel the same kind of attraction. But let me tell you something, it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done to keep my mouth shut about this.
Because I can feel myself breaking. I feel my tongue waiting to betray me. To tell you that I am so completely into you. So completely enamoured by everything you are. And it has nothing to do with outward beauty and everything to do with the gorgeous soul that lies deep within you. And what’s crazy is you don’t see how stunning, how captivating, how incredibly amazing every piece of you is.
So our future looks like this. We keep things the way it is. Because even though I want to love you, I am nowhere near ready too. And while I’m taking my time to get ready to love you, you might meet someone else. You might meet them and love them more than you could ever love me. And they’ll love you just as much. Because you are that person. The person people fall for immediately.
But don’t ever feel sorry for me. Never feel like I’ve lost out because I’ve never gotten to love you in that way. Because the love that I’ve gotten from this is so much better. You have shown me that people like you exist and that makes me fair better off than most.
And if we ever did cross paths as lovers instead of friends, I know that I wouldn’t need anyone else.

You are the ultimate. You would be my ultimate. So maybe we’ll end up together or maybe we won’t but all I know is this; as long as you exist in my world, I’ll be happy. No matter what capacity. 
✉️ Alexandria Brown